6 Behaviors to Avoid On Facebook
I heard someone say when I was in Italy awhile back that there are rules to driving in Rome, it’s just that those rules aren’t the published ones. You have to be there for awhile to get a feel for the real rules.
Social media is kind of like that. There aren’t really published rules. Or if they are, they are the terms of use and not really the rules of how to engage well. But there are rules for how to engage in social media, unwritten rules that ought to govern our conduct to make social media work. In my experience, social media reflects real life but it multiplies exponentially the sense in which some people feel like the whole world is theirs to take up space in and to explain to others, while working to limit the degree to which other people can feel like that. Social media then becomes a mechanism by which what Robin James has called multiracial white supremacist patriarchy (MrWaSP) perpetuates itself. That’s not going to stop unless we actively resist it.
I think there are people out there who troll by virtue of their character. But other people just seem oblivious. This post is for those people. I like the idea that we should think about people’s Facebook walls as their virtual home (ok, I say social media, but chiefly I mean Facebook – I spend time on Twitter, but I’m much less active there). You are a guest, you should act like a guest. If you don’t know someone IRL, you should be more reserved and not assume you are welcome until further encouraged. But this rule, like the others, should be contextualized–some people will always be made to feel less welcome and you should think about that as you moderate your own wall. Also, the host-guest metaphor might be insufficient because I think some people who behave poorly on Facebook would treat me like this in my house, too. In any case… Read more